Coleen says

IT’S very hard to be the partner of someone who’s an addict. It can be a very long road to recovery with many relapses and, sadly, some people never manage it.

What’s positive here is that your husband accepts he has a problem (often the hardest step) and is willing to get help for it.

Is he getting any ongoing support in the form of a sponsor and AA meetings or counselling? I think that could be a crucial lifeline.

The truth is, there will always be that risk he’ll fall off the wagon – he could be sober for 10 years, then something will trigger a relapse. So, it’s very important that you look after yourself and have a plan for if he drinks again.

Is there somewhere you can go until he sobers up? Make it clear that while you support his recovery 100 per cent, you won’t stay and be abused if he’s been drinking.

He needs to take responsibility for his drinking and the things he does when he’s drunk.

I’d recommend contacting Al Anon, who run family groups providing support to anyone who’s been affected by someone else’s drinking. To find a group near you visit al-anonuk.org.uk or call 020 7403 0888.

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