Coleen says

YOU don’t mention whether you’ve had professional help to deal with what happened in your marriage. I’m guessing you haven’t because now that you’re in a new relationship, all those bottled-up emotions are coming out.

I think you need counselling after all you’ve been through. You probably have a lot of buried anger and hurt you need to let out.

All those years of abuse can’t just be erased overnight. But you’ve taken the biggest step to recovery by getting out of the relationship and you should feel very proud of that.

However, you can’t get out of it and pretend it didn’t happen. Of course it’s going to affect subsequent relationships.

Counselling is not a miracle cure and it won’t deal with 23 years of abuse in two hours. You need to commit to it.

I don’t know what’s at the root of you wanting sex all the time – it could be your insecurity and you’re associating sex with love.

Try to relax a bit – it’s early days, so try to focus on building a strong relationship with this man. Good luck.

According to a recent report by relationships charities Relate and Relationships Scotland, loneliness is rising in the UK, with one in eight adults having no close friends – that’s nearly seven million of us.

The research also found 18 per cent feel lonely often or most of the time, while 17 per cent admitted rarely feeling loved.

Reach out, folks!