Dear Coleen

MY husband has thrown me out of our home and I am desperate to get my family back. I’m 26 and he is 27. We’ve been married for seven years and have two children, aged four and six.

Throughout our marriage I have been seeing a friend of my dad’s on a casual basis. We don’t have full sex, I just pleasure him in other ways.

Most of the time I’m completely happy in my marriage, but now and then I enjoy pleasuring other men.

This friend of my dad’s will drop me a text asking for a meet-up once or twice a month. Occasionally, I have also picked up other men on nights out with my friends.

My husband had no idea and, as far as I was concerned, if I didn’t have full intercourse with these men then it wasn’t cheating.

Recently though, I made a terrible mistake. My husband took the kids away camping for the weekend.

After they left, I was feeling bored, so I texted my lover and invited him over for an evening of oral pleasure. When he arrived, we got straight down to it. However, my husband walked in on us. Something had gone wrong with our car, so he’d decided to abandon the camping trip.

My kids were standing there holding his hand looking confused and upset. As for my husband, he went ballistic and turfed me out there and then.

I’ve tried to reach out to him but he won’t hear a word of it. He says we’ll discuss access to the kids in court. He’s adamant we’re getting a divorce.

I’m devastated. What can I do?