He dumped me and gave my Xmas gifts to new girl

dearcoleen@dailyrecord.co.uk line, it doesn’t mean he’ll come back to you. And even if he did, why would you want him if he’s that kind of person?

Try to stop focusing on why he can’t see what he did was wrong – it’s pointless.

He doesn’t want to see it, probably because he feels guilty and doesn’t know what to do with those feelings. And is it really going to make you feel any better if he apologises and admits he treated you badly?

As hard as it is for you now, the best way forward is to learn from it and accept he wasn’t the right one and that you deserve better.

A word of warning – if he finishes with this girl and says he wants to be with you, be really careful.

It sounds like there’s a history of him boomeranging in and out of the relationship – you broke up before due to a “third party”.

He seems unreliable and unpredictable and it’s very hard to live your life with someone not knowing what they’re going to do from one day to the next. Focus on your life now and what you want for the future.