Coleen says

I HONESTLY don’t think you can move on unless he’s prepared to confront what happened and why.

You’re entitled to ask whatever you want – he needs to prove he’s 100 per cent committed to your marriage.

It will take time. I’d strongly advise therapy to help him bring down his defences. Why not make it a condition of you staying together? It’s easy to say “I’m sorry” and “It’s over” but you need more to repair the relationship.

It’s good that he’s taking responsibility for his child and well done to you for realising this is important. You can’t force your kids to get to know their sibling but if you show them you’re OK with it, they’ll come round.

I’m sure they’re hurting for you and don’t want to be disloyal.