WEIGHT LOSS HAS MADE HIM ARROGANT

Dear Coleen

AT the end of last year, my husband was told by his doctor that he needed to lose a lot of weight as he was putting his health at serious risk. He had high cholesterol and had developed type 2 diabetes.

Amazingly, he had a proper wake-up call, went on a diet, took medication and lost a lot of weight. He looks fantastic and it’s given him a new lease of life.

However, and here’s my dilemma, it’s turned him into a bit of an ass.

He’s become a bit arrogant and is now criticising me for my health choices, even though I’m slim and healthy.

Plus, before the lockdown, he was going out a lot more with his mates and not including me. I just feel he’s changed and I’m not sure where I fit in. Do you think I’m being dramatic?

Coleen says

OK, he’s pleased with himself and so he should be – it’s great what he’s achieved, not just for himself but for his family.

I think you just need to tell him that although you think it’s wonderful that he’s lost all this weight, you don’t appreciate him judging you.

He might not even realise it’s coming across as criticism – he might think he’s helping because now he’s got this great knowledge and thinks it’s his job to spread the word!

And tell him that while you’re happy he’s opened up his life and is seeing his mates more, you’re feeling a bit sidelined and you’d like to do more things together.

Why not come up with some suggestions?

The important thing is, none of this stuff sounds like it can’t be tackled – you just have to communicate how you feel.

Plus, I’m sure he’ll calm down a bit once the novelty has worn off and his new habits become a way of life.