I’VE fallen for my “friend with benefits” sex buddy.

He and I have been crashing into bed for over two years.

He calls me fatty and I call him The Nerd. He dates other people and so do I.

But just lately I’ve found myself only thinking of him. He’s the only lover I crave.

He’ll go nuts if I tell him. He’ll accuse me of being pathetic. He’s always boasting that we’re really modern and cool.

We make our own rules. If he’s feeling sex-starved then he’ll come to me. If I’m at a loose end, I’ll pop round to him.

No commitment, no questions asked and no strings attached.

But falling in love is against the rules.

He’s currently bedding a girl from his office and I’m as jealous as hell. JANE SAYS: The reality is that it’s hard to have regular sex with someone and not feel any emotion at all.

Suddenly a light has gone on in your brain – and things can never be the same again.

You won’t be able to have cold, mechanical sex with your friend again, because you now want more.

You crave passion and you want love.

You have to tell him how you feel before you drive yourself crazy. Tell him that you’re ripping up the rule book, but you don’t care.

Who knows, maybe this is the news he’s been dying to hear.

Sadly, if he laughs in your face, then you will know that it’s time to change your life and find someone who is willing to commit.