MY partner loves to slag off his ex-wife in public.

He tells anyone who’ll listen that she’s a greedy, manipulative bitch.

But I’ve just discovered that he’s still in contact with her in private.

In fact, he goes round to see her every Friday night for a meal and has stayed over more than once.

How do I know? Because his mother, who is his Friday night alibi, has told me.

She never wanted him to divorce her in the first place and hates my guts.

I’ve just had her on the phone for the 10th time telling me that I’m pathetic and he’s out of my league and that my days are numbered.

I’m beside myself. I’m too terrified to confront my partner in case he confirms that everything is true and that I’m out on my ear. JANE SAYS: You can’t allow anyone to treat you like this – not your partner or his vicious mother.

You’ve got to confront your bloke, for your own self-respect and dignity, and ask him if it’s true he’s been staying with his ex behind your back.

If he has, then you have to walk away before your confidence takes any more of a knock.

Clearly there’s still a bond between your partner and his ex-wife, especially if they have children together, but you don’t deserve to be lied to.

Did these sleepovers involve sex? Is there anything else about this situation you need to know?

I get the impression that he protests too much about hating his ex to create a smokescreen.

Leave them alone to play their games while you get on with the rest of your life.