MY long-term boyfriend constantly challenges me.

He knows I’m desperate to get married and start a family but he keeps moving the goalposts.

We’ve been together for 10 years. At first he said we should concentrate on our careers and get our salaries up to £30,000 a year, which we’ve both now done.

Then he said that he wasn’t prepared to look cheap in front of his friends, so we’d have to have a wedding that costs at least £30,000.

I’ve since saved up £20,000 in cash and I can put another £10,000 on credit cards – but he still won’t set a date.

The latest thing is that he thinks I should “have some work done” so that I look my best in the photographs.

The other night he mentioned a boob job, nose re-shaping, Botox and a gastric band all in the same sentence.

I go to the gym three times a week and don’t actually think I look too bad, so why does he keep setting these targets? JANE SAYS: You have to realise that this man isn’t interested in settling down at all.

Instead of being honest with you, he’s very cruelly setting you a series of goals and targets that you can never reach.

How dare he suggest you go under the knife and have plastic surgery?

If he doesn’t ever wish to marry you, then why hasn’t he got the guts to say so?

As for having children, if that’s a priority for you, then I don’t think you can waste any more time.

Put bluntly, you won’t be fertile forever.

Tell him that you’re done with playing mind games and that you’re taking your £20,000 and clearing off for good. Then run.