WHEN I was offered my current job I confided in my oldest friend.
I said I was worried about leaving home for long periods because there have been a lot of breakins around here.
She came to my rescue by offering to house-sit for me in return for food, drink and a cosy place to bring her married boyfriend.
But I’ve realised that she’s been rifling through my clothes, my money and my sex toys.
I feel violated and dirty. She’s been laughing about me on Facebook.
Apparently she’s worn my clothes.
And she’s even used my vibrators and flavoured lubricants.
I don’t know how we can ever be close again because she won’t accept she’s done wrong. JANE SAYS:Your grubby friend has crossed a line and I don’t think you can trust her again.
She’s invaded your privacy and attempted to turn you into a figure of fun.
I can only assume she’s a very spiteful woman, jealous of your lifestyle and success.
Front her up about this and make her squirm. Ask her how she’d like it if you came to her house and went through her personal belongings.
By pretending she’s done nothing wrong she’s effectively sticking two fingers up at you. Tell her you want nothing more to do with her.
Then warn other friends so they don’t make the same mistake. MY slug of a bloke has been spending my money on his tart.
I can’t believe the sheer audacity of the man.
While I’ve been slogging my guts out at work, he’s been splashing my cash on champagne, hotel rooms and weekends away.
My credit card has also been used to buy designer handbags, jewellery and perfume too – which I very much doubt is destined for my Christmas stocking.
He claims that he’s really sorry, that’s it all a big misunderstanding and he’s definitely going to pay me back every penny he’s squandered.
I’m not holding my breath. The fact is that he’s been sleeping around behind my back for the past three months and I just can’t see how we can ever recover from this. I’ve been betrayed, ripped off and made to look an idiot.
Six months ago he was made redundant from yet another job.
He claimed it wasn’t his fault (it never is), his boss was jealous of him, blah, blah, blah…
He begged me to bankroll him because he said he had a brilliant idea for a sexy, action-packed film script: It was a James Bond meets Christian Grey idea full of bondage, bad guys and flash car chases.
I run my own, very successful, business, so paid for him to attend a creative writing course in Tuscany and then handed over one of my company credit cards for his research.
The bottom line is that his “research” has comprised wining and dining his mistress at my expense.
They’ve literally bled me dry and my accountants are going through the roof.
To add insult to injury, he’s confessed that he hasn’t actually committed one word of his “script” to paper.
He swears that he’ll never see his lover again and that everything will be “fine”, but how can it be? JANE SAYS: You’ve got to stop believing – and indulging – this complete idiot. He has betrayed your trust and wasted your hard-earned cash.
You handed him a fantastic opportunity when you agreed to support him.
He could have buckled down, written his screenplay and actually been proud of having achieved something.
Instead, he has totally let himself, and you, down in the most selfish and immature fashion.
He can shout, stamp his foot and dress it up any way he likes, but he is in the wrong.
He’s squandered a once-in-a- lifetime opportunity. There can be no coming back from this betrayal. He’s had your money, your trust and your faith.
He’s allowed you to work like stink while he’s bonked another woman.
Work out exactly how much he owes you, hand him the bill and suggest he starts paying you back immediately. Have you been defrauded? Do the police need to be called? Make it your business to never see him again.
Learn from this and be very careful the next time around. OUR daughter is demanding a massive wedding – silk dress, limousine, lunch for 100 and evening reception for 200.
Of course we love her and want to give our little princess the happiest day of our life.
But not everything is running smoothly.
We assumed her fiancé’s family would be chipping in with some cash too, but apparently they’re not.
Despite being loaded, they’re not prepared to put a penny into the coffers.
I’ve suggested they pay for the evening DJ, the flowers and some of the booze.
But I’ve just had a terse conversation with the father who believes it’s traditional for the parents of the bride to pay up.
What really gets me is that they’re able to pay, just not willing.
We can’t afford the whole thing. Where do we go from here? JANE SAYS: Traditionally, the bride’s family did always pay for most of a wedding. But this is the 21st Century.
Does this family have cash flow worries or a problem with their son marrying your daughter?
I suggest you ask for a formal face-to-face meeting with everyone concerned.
Describe the kind of wedding the young couple are planning and see if they’re willing to make any concessions.
If the answer is still a resounding “no”, then you’ll have to tell your daughter to start saving and scale down her plans.
What you can’t possibly do is get yourselves into horrendous debt. You should also ask her if she’s absolutely sure about marrying into this tricky family.