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MY mother-in-law is tricky and greedy.
Any time she gets short of cash she goes on the attack.
She contacts everyone she knows and comes up with the most audacious sob stories.
She’s shameless. She will claim she’s been robbed, mugged or threatened with death in order to screw her nearest and dearest.
When I first met my husband (her son) she fleeced me several times over until I wised up.
The other day she even claimed that she couldn’t afford to buy food, which I know is a fib.
A neighbour then gave her £50, which I know she spent down the pub.
My husband is so ashamed he’s washed his hands of her.
I’M just one of the many men my girlfriend beds.
I love her to pieces, but it breaks my heart to know that she skips from guy to guy as the fancy takes her.
She’s an extremely sexy and attractive woman. She’s the most popular person I think I’ve ever met and has no trouble attracting male and female admirers alike.
She makes no secret of the fact there’s a guy at work who makes her laugh; a married fella from her old school who will always be special and a much younger man who is “just a bit of fun”.
These are just the regular lovers I know about – and then there’s me.
Fancy
Apparently I’m the “sensible” one, which I know doesn’t sound like much of a compliment.
I make her feel safe and secure when other things are going wrong in her life. She reckons that making love with me grounds and reassures her.
But I don’t want that. I love her and fancy her and want her all to myself. Is that really so much to ask for after being together for more than two years?
I’ve even suffered the embarrassment of meeting a couple of regular current lovers.
A few weeks ago we were at a party and two blokes bowled up to me saying: “So, you’re in the harem too, are you? Lucky devil. She’s great, isn’t she?”
Harem? I never meant for this to happen. They weren’t the slightest bit jealous of me and tried to chat like long-lost mates. One even suggested that a few of us should get together for an orgy. I stormed off in disgust. My question to you is this: How do I make her mine? How do I tame this marvellous woman in order to have her all to myself ?
Any time I suggest commitment she brushes me aside with talk of complications and private things that she can’t really talk about.
JANE SAYS: I’m sure that we could all plead poverty for one reason or another – especially at this time of year.
We could all claim big bills, demanding teenagers, dependant elderly relatives etc.
As long as your mother-in-law is not committing fraud or deliberately ripping anyone off, then she’s on her own. I’d keep out of this if I were you.
You’ve spoken to her about her scheming ways, now back off.
Maybe this is the least of your husband’s problems, especially if she’s been tricky and difficult all his life.
Don’t allow this to become something you and he fall out over.
You’re never going to change her. She’ll simply have to face the consequences if she does overstep the mark. JANE SAYS: My take on your situation is that this “marvellous woman” couldn’t be happier.
What gives you the idea that she wants to be tamed? It sounds as if she has got her life just as she wants it.
All the bases are covered. From the foxy, wild lovers to the dependable ones, she’s in clover.
Face it, you’re never going to make her yours and yours alone because she likes her life and she likes plenty of different people around her – and in her bed.
I’m not saying that she’s right or wrong, but if you can’t stand the pace or the competition, then I suggest you move on.
My worry is that you’re in way over your head. If you are longing for a woman who will cherish you above all others and not even look at another guy, then you’re with the wrong person.
You’re never going to change or trap her because she’s an individual with a very strong sense of who she is and what she wants.
Besides, who are you to tell her what to do when you’ve known the score right from the start? I know it’s tough, but you’ve got to ship out if you’re to find a one-guywoman and true happiness.
The alternative is growing bitterness and hostility within you – and that isn’t good for your mental or physical health.