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I SPOTTED my next-door neighbour sitting in his car with a woman. I waved and he mouthed at me to “clear off” – or words to that effect.
Two nights later I spotted him again. This time my dog ran towards the vehicle and I noticed that a woman had her head in his lap and was obviously giving him oral sex.
I’d had a drink. I laughed out loud and banged on the glass for a joke. He went nuts and the woman looked mortified.
Now he’s been to see me and has asked me not to breathe a word to anyone.
He’s told me a ridiculous story about “his friend” being a car mechanic who was checking out his clutch because it had been making a funny noise. Yeah, right.
But I’m really friendly with his wife and I know she’s worried he’s having an affair – which clearly he is.
I’M a debt-ridden mature student. Is sex for cash a good idea?
My girlfriend dumped me four months ago. She’s now with a rich guy and is showing off about her new life on social media.
She makes me sick. I keep thinking of ways of paying off my overdraft and loans and getting back at her.
One of the girls in my houseshare has a sugar daddy while two others perform on the internet and see guys – usually married – in exchange for pocket money.
Both say there is plenty of work out there for guys, too.
Encounter
I’m straight, but one girl reckons that this town is swarming with “sugar mummies” – desperate, neglected wives with money to burn, who would lap up my services too.
Dare I go for it? She says it’s easy money and I should try it.
She only goes out with men she’s been introduced to through mates, and knows loads of people I could contact.
She charges from £100 an encounter with services ranging from a kiss to full intercourse.
I’ve quizzed her on every aspect of her little sideline and she claims that it’s all absolutely fine.
The clients aren’t monsters, because they’re all personally vetted. They’re utterly charming and all pay up on time.
She hasn’t had to fork out for restaurant meals in months and one guy even gave her a new phone for her birthday. On top of that, she’s cleared all her debts and is planning a trip to Las Vegas this summer.
I hate the fact that I have no money. I regularly lie awake at night worrying about my bills and I virtually live on pasta.
If I could just get a few hundred quid under my belt, then I know I’d be so much happier – plus I’d be able to stick it to my ex.
Should I give this a chance?
JANE SAYS: Tell your neighbour that you want no part of this.
If he and his wife are having problems and if he’s having an affair, then it’s of no interest to you. Make it clear you regret banging on his car window.
But if his wife comes to you and says she fears her man might be playing away, then you will not be able to hold your tongue.
Suggest he stops messing on his own doorstep and deals with his problems.
Something like this invariably gets out and if you don’t tell his wife, then the chances are that someone else will. JANE SAYS: You have to accept that you are not your housemate – and she, most certainly, isn’t you. Whatever she chooses to do with her life is completely up to her, but you can’t follow, sheeplike, into her game…
She may tell you everything is fine and her clients are the cutest things ever, but she’s obviously using a huge amount of spin.
You have absolutely no way of knowing what really goes on in her bedroom – and I don’t suggest you find out either.
The reality is that she is selling herself. I don’t care how she dresses it up, she’s a hooker.
Walk away and sort out your problems your way. Work out what you owe, and to whom, and check out nationaldebtline.org.uk for help and information.
What’s wrong with getting a regular part-time job? Find out what’s available locally or through your student body.
Whatever happens you must remain true to yourself and not be persuaded to do something you know won’t make you happy.
As for “showing” your exgirlfriend – forget that too.
She’s gone. She’s moved on. This is your time now and you need to use it wisely and productively.