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CALL me naive, but I had no idea how shocking revenge porn could be until I was sent a set of pictures of my 26-year-old daughter by her sleazy ex-boyfriend.
He was furious that she’d finally found the courage to leave him and was determined to make her pay by humiliating her.
The matter is now in the hands of the police and my distraught daughter has apologised.
What I can’t admit to anyone around me is that I can’t get those horrible images out of my mind. I can’t make love to my wife because sex now feels dirty and sordid.
All I can think about is revenge on the scumbag who has poisoned my mind and taken away my sexual confidence.
How do I make him suffer and pay?
MY tricky brother wants me to take his side in his bitter feud with our mum and dad.
He’s putting pressure on them to sell the family home in order to give him (and me, if I agree) a large lump sum.
He feels it’s wrong that they get to live in the house our grandfather built, which is now worth a fortune, when they were such terrible parents to us.
I agree with him that they haven’t always been the best mum and dad in the world.
Both drink, overspend and only really care about each other. As children we were left to our own devices because they were out enjoying themselves.
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They didn’t attend school parents’ evenings or plays, preferring to see their boozy friends down the pub.
I think they were part of a wifeswapping, orgy ring. There were always wild parties at our old house and for a while an “uncle” lived with us who I’m sure was my mother’s other lover.
Our dad also had his fair share of girlfriends who came and went without a word said to us.
When our rich grandfather was alive, he always said he was going to leave his house to my brother and me.
But we were shocked to read his will only to discover that my mum and dad got it instead.
All of grandad’s savings went on inheritance tax and now our parents are sitting pretty in a gorgeous place that they simply don’t deserve. My brother thinks our mother may have frightened or pressurised our grandfather in the end.
I don’t know about that but I do know that my brother and his very pushy wife are going all out to get my parents to sell up and hand out.
She is particularly determined to make my parents pay because she believes they’ve been rude to her. I feel torn and very uncomfortable. What do I do?
JANE SAYS: Please, forget any notion of revenge.You must allow the police to do their work while you get on with the business of living your life in a healthy and loving way.
You can’t allow this to sour the future. If you do, then her nasty ex will have won.
Remember that your daughter is only human: she trusted the wrong person and now she’s paying the price.
I suspect she feels even worse than you right now and has learnt her lesson.
Talk to your wife – she needs to understand what you’re going through. Promise to get some counselling together if you really struggle to move on. JANE SAYS: Did your brother contest the will after your grandfather’s death? Did he mention to a solicitor that your grandfather may have been leant on in his final days?
If he did, and lost, then the house now lawfully belongs to your parents – and there’s not much he can do about that.
Of course he could appeal to them to sell up and share the proceeds among everyone but I don’t think he’s ever going to get very far threatening them or making enemies of his own family.
You need to tell him to calm down. Yes, you get it that he’s miffed, but what if he hacks them off completely and they end up leaving everything to a cats’ home? No-one is arguing with the fact your mother and father haven’t been perfect parents but very few people are blessed with an absolutely blissful family life.
Most of us make allowances, duck and dive and get along the best we can. If your brother’s wife is pulling his strings, then he needs to start thinking for himself. Tell him you won’t take sides because life is too short.
The last thing anyone needs is a protracted court case or row over a contested will.