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MY girlfriend swears she no longer loves her ex-boyfriend, but she still shares a flat with him out of “convenience”.

I’m struggling to come to terms with this arrangement.

She and I have been together for nearly a year and she assures me he’s not a threat, but how am I supposed to feel?

They co-rent a small flat but are no longer in a sexual relationship.

He’s broke and can’t afford to get anywhere on his own, so she’s said he can hang around until he finds himself a better paid job. She claims he mostly sleeps on the settee.

But if he takes a nap during the day or she stays round at my place he takes the bed because, apparently, it makes more sense.

I feel weird getting into a bed that her ex-lover has just left.

She says I have nothing to be worried about.

JANE SAYS: It’s hardly surprising that you feel very uncomfortable with your girlfriend’s living arrangements.

Suggest you give each other some breathing space and think about getting back together again once she’s fully single.

My big worry is that there is more to this situation than meets the eye; that they haven’t broken up and you’re at risk of being hurt and humiliated.

Make it clear to her you like her very much but you’re a man of simple tastes who prefers things to be as cut and dried as possible.