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MY new slimline boyfriend doesn’t know if he wants to stay in our relationship.
He thinks he can do better for himself. He’s demanding time apart so that he can “look at his options”.
I’m devastated as I feel as though I’ve brought this all upon myself. It was me who suggested he lose weight, stop drinking and buy some decent clothes.
Now he looks amazing but has become so big for his boots I fear that I’m about to lose him to someone slimmer, younger and sassier than myself. How could I have been such a fool?
Just after Christmas he was looking terrible. Trouble at work led to him sleeping badly and bingeing out on junk food.
I signed him up to a gym, started buying healthy foods and encouraged him to find a new job. Now our friends and families can’t believe the transformation.
But the more his belly has shrunk, the more his head has swollen. Suddenly, I’m dispensable. He’s rejecting me in bed and won’t talk about our future.
JANE SAYS: Your partner has to hear that you won’t be treated like dirt. Yes, I get it that he’s full of himself right now.
He’s looking good and feeling fantastic, but you deserve better. Get him on his own and remind him that you matter.
You were the one who encouraged this transformation and he can’t simply dump you like an old pair of (oversized) tracksuit bottoms. Whatever happened to loyalty and gratitude?
Doesn’t he understand that adult relationships are all about sticking together through the good times and the bad?
You cannot allow him to make a fool of you. If you begin to suspect he has someone else lined up to take your place, then orchestrate a dignified exit.
Remember that if he can reinvent himself and go on to love again, then you can too.