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OUR son was going out with this lovely girl for a few years.

Now he has broken up with her and we feel like we are in mourning.

We want to keep seeing her as she is so nice, but he wants us to have nothing to do with her.

Our son is not one to let the grass grow under his feet and already has a new girl.

My husband is furious and won’t let her come into the house if our son isn’t yet home from work.

She has to sit outside in her car and even then my husband won’t talk to her.

I hate the atmosphere in our home. I feel I’m being pulled in so many different directions. Where does my loyalty lie? JANE SAYS: I know exactly how you and your husband feel.

I’ve been through this particular kind of “mourning” several times myself.

The kids bring home partners who we like and welcome into our homes.

We feed them, give them a bed for the night and treat them well. They quickly become a part of the family.

But if the relationship breaks up, we don’t get a chance to say goodbye.

It feels very unfair and final. We’ve all become close, yet there is no closure.

All we can do is accept that this is part of life’s rich tapestry.

People come and go and we don’t always get the conclusions we’d like.

Unfortunately, you can’t keep in contact with your son’s ex. I urge you to keep moving forward but, maybe, don’t invest so much emotion in your son’s next relationship.

Hopefully, your husband will come around in time regarding the new girlfriend, because none of this is her fault.