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JUST when I thought we were settled into a good lifestyle with no financial worries, my girlfriend announced she wants to give up work.

She says she’s sick of the rat race and yearns to go back into education. That’s all very well, but it’s her high salary that pays for our holidays and meals out.

I don’t earn nearly enough on my own for the treats I’ve come to expect and enjoy.

She says her corporate job is boring and she would rather earn less in the long-term doing something interesting and worthwhile.

I’m furious and keep telling her she’s being selfish. But she says she needs to put her mental health first.

But surely giving up everything she’s achieved is madness? JANE SAYS: It’s not your place to push your girlfriend too far.

If she’s already saying her high-powered job is having a negative impact on her mental health, then you have to back off and respect her position.

If the job is grinding her down, then do you really want her to carry on suffering? I get it that her money is good and your lifestyle is enviable, but you have to listen to her and give her credit for knowing her limits.

I worry that this is all a cry for help and she may have been suffering in silence for a while.

Support her and let her know that you’re on her side. Tell her you’ll stand by her because you’re a team. Does she need to discuss her worries with a health professional?

What are holidays and meals out compared to long-term happiness?