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NOTHING we ever do for my mother is right. If we take her on holiday she doesn’t like the resort. Sunday lunches are ruined with her complaining about tough meat or my kids looking at their phones.

Recently it was her birthday. I treated her to afternoon tea at a garden centre and she called me tight for not taking her to a top hotel! Should I dump this grumpy granny? JANE SAYS: Maybe your mother simply isn’t interested in spending time with you and your family. Maybe the noise, fuss and friction are simply too much for her.

Why not level with her? Ask her what it is that she actually wants. If it’s simply to be left in peace in her own home, then maybe you’ll have to go to her place for a cuppa in future. Find a compromise before you all blow your tops.