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I SUFFER from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) as a result of being stalked for two and a half years.

A major operation has left me with gross anxiety and sleeplessness.

My family were cruelly wiped out prematurely in the 1980s and my darling sister passed away earlier this year. My partner is my rock but I know he’s concerned about me.

Traditionally, I’ve always dealt with my problems with a steady drink.

I’ve found that “blowing away the cobwebs” with booze, healing music and a private room for three to four nights re-sets me.

Please don’t tell me to stop drinking altogether as I know my own mind.

But now my trick isn’t working any more and I need you to tell me off.

I haven’t had a drink for many weeks but please tell me to stop doing daft things and to honour my lost ones’ memories. JANE SAYS: There’s no getting away from the fact that you’ve been through some tough times.

Your life hasn’t been easy, but you’re doing well. You’ve not drunk for a while and realise that you have to get through the ups and downs the best you can.

Sorry, but of course I’m going to tell you to stop drinking!

Excessive boozing never helps anyone.

Continue to appreciate your partner and take each day as it comes.

Don’t plan or think too far in advance, and get any help you need from your GP, your friends and supportive partner.

Feel proud that you’ve come through so much with a good sense of humour and knowledge of who you are.

Consider yourself “told off” if that’s what you need!