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GROUP sex has turned grisly for me.
Now I’m wishing my partner and I had never got involved with four other couples.
Suddenly there is just so much infighting and jealousy. People are sneaking around and having secret meet-ups.
I have just discovered that my own partner has been seeing another girl and guy for threesomes behind my back.
When I point out that’s not fair, she pouts: “There are no rules.” But I think there should be before this sordid situation implodes.
I thought linking up with other horny adults would give our relationship a much-needed boost.
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But now she’s obsessed with risky sex and I fear I’m being left behind. She says that if I cannot keep up, then she can’t guarantee that she will still be with me for much longer.
She’s having the time of her life but I’m in bits. Now I could kick myself for ever going down this path. It all seemed such a great idea when a neighbour invited us to a “special” party.
We went with the flow. We drank, watched porn and then ogled others making love. It was a laugh.
At the second party, we decided to join in and, yes, I had a brilliant time. Another four good events followed – but just recently everything has turned sour.
At a recent party she entirely ignored me all night in favour of other lovers. A couple of the other women are now labelling her a “greedy husband stealer”. One other couple have split up altogether because the bloke couldn’t stand seeing his wife with other men. I can feel my own girl breaking away from me.
She wants edgier sex and bigger thrills. And she is even talking about finding more couples from the internet.
We’re all supposed to be attending a massive New Year’s Eve party complete with hot tub and sex dungeon, but now I don’t even know if we’re going to make it until then.
How have I allowed my whole life to slip away from me? JANE SAYS: Clearly you thought you could handle swinging and orgies. You thought your relationship was strong enough to survive, but you were wrong.
By bringing other people into your private world, you’ve upset the balance. You realise you don’t like seeing your girl with other people; you can’t handle the jealousy, uncertainty or competition.
She crossed a line by going behind your back with another girl and guy and now you and she are at each other’s throats.
You’ve got to come clean and start being honest with her. Tell her, away from the bedroom, that you just can’t do this any more.
You can’t handle the pressure and need to go back to where you were before – in a monogamous relationship. What does she think about that? Is she prepared to turn back the clock and only have sex with you?
Yet I have got a horrible feeling that things have just gone too far and your relationship is already headed for the rocks.
If you and she are to part, at least ask her to be reasonable and to give you time to find a new home in order to start again.