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I’M worried about introducing my girl to my folks at Christmas as she has such a chequered past.
She says she’s desperate to meet them, but my mum and sisters are a nosey bunch.
They’ll want to hear all about her parents, school days, past boyfriends and life experiences.
My girl is a very colourful, honest person, who isn’t ashamed of anything, and will happily tell them the lot – with knobs on.
If anything she loves to shock. She will happily wax lyrical about her time as a stripper, her two failed marriages and the numerous past lovers.
Rude
They’ll be invited to admire her many tattoos and piercings and the six toes on her left foot.
At the moment she’s extremely proud of herself as she’s making a fortune running a business from her flat.
Basically she tries out sex toys in front of a camera for paying punters. They can even buy the toys if they like and the mark-up she makes is phenomenal.
I can tell you now, there is absolutely no way that my mum and sisters will understand or approve. They are great, but live very normal, subdued lives.
I love my girl. She’s energetic, funny and rude. She’s like a breath of fresh air. My disapproving, uptight ex-wife was a nightmare in the bedroom.
My new girl says she likes me because I’m open-minded and don’t judge her. Presumably she believes that my folks are just like me, but they’re really not.
Obviously I can’t ban her from the family home, but how do I manage this? I’m absolutely not ashamed of her, but could do without her meeting my family just yet. What can I say to put her off for another year?
JANE SAYS: You swear you are not ashamed of your new girlfriend, but is that the truth?
Are you protesting just a teensy bit too much?
The fact is that she is who she is and that will not change. She’s not ashamed of her past or embarrassed by her current occupation.
If anything, she’s super proud that she’s able to make such a good living from the comfort of her own home.
Other people may not approve of her work, but she doesn’t give a fig. Her life experiences make her who she is today and she’s not prepared to hide her light under a bushel for anyone.
I think it’s going to be very difficult for you to tell her that she can’t meet your family if she has expressly asked to be introduced to them. Do you ask her to tone things down, perhaps, during the first meeting? Do you speak to your family in advance and warn them that she is more colourful than your ex-wife?
I wonder if she might actually be putting you to the test with this request. Could she be gauging how serious you are about her?
If you and she are to go the distance, then she’s got to meet your mum and sisters at some stage.
You might be surprised. She may even charm them into loving her.
Sadly, if they really don’t like her, then maybe you’ll all have to agree to disagree in future.