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OUR sex life is a disaster and, apparently, that is all my fault.

My partner says I’m incapable of turning him on.

I’m not imaginative, sexy or exciting enough.

I put him off with my “stupid face”, my frumpy underwear and lumpy behind.

In fact, just about everything about me makes him wilt…

He’s always comparing me to his ex-girlfriend, who he split up with back in 2006.

According to him, she was seriously amazing.

Me? I’m about as much use as a chocolate teapot.

Often he’ll go into raptures about the great times they enjoyed and then slag me off for not being her.

But how am I supposed to feel good about myself and please him when he’s always putting me down? I have bought sexy undies and adult toys, but nothing works. JANE SAYS: Your man knows, as well as anyone, that it takes two to tango.

He can’t simply blame you for his lack of performance in the bedroom – that’s grossly unfair and immature.

He has a problem with erectile dysfunction, so he needs to face up to that and seek professional help.

There are many reasons why a man can’t make love – he could have an emotional or a physical problem.

Point out that this is not a blame game.

He needs to seek help via his GP. You’ll be supportive, but you have your limits too.

Make it clear that he split from his ex a very long time ago and you don’t want her thrown back in your face again.