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MY girlfriend keeps going out to lap dancing and strip clubs – on her own.
She is fascinated by the girls, their bodies and their stories.
She makes no secret of the fact that she pays for private dances. She says that she’s not going to lie because the girls fascinate her and turn her on.
Of course she claims to only look – and never touch – but how can I trust her to tell the truth when she is such an enigma? This is all started when she had to do a study of alternative lifestyles for part of her university course.
A fellow student suggested she interview her sister who was then working as a pole dancer.
My girl watched the show, did the interview and became hooked.
Now she has the utmost respect for “working ladies” and how they juggle their lives, deal with the punters and pay their bills. But there’s a sexual element to this too, as whenever she comes back from her favourite clubs, she’s on fire.
She pins me to the bed and the sex is wild. But it hurts me that, I suspect, she is fantasising about them – and not me. JANE SAYS: Some people might say, if you’re getting great sex, then why are you complaining?
But if you cannot reconcile yourself to your girlfriend’s activities, then you are entitled to say so. Ask to speak to her. Remain calm, be mature and tell her that you struggle with her choices.
Does it bother her that you sometimes feel left out, jealous and second best?
And is this pursuit something you could enjoy together?
If she insists it has nothing to do with you, then you have to decide where you go from here.
Can you accept her solo nights out or do you need to cut and run?