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MY former boyfriend always used to say that I’m a pushover and I think he was right.

I’m being driven mad by a difficult neighbour who is as pushy as she is needy and simply won’t leave me alone.

A few weeks ago she came to me in tears.

Her on/off partner was stalking her and she had no money and no food.

Like a fool, I gave her my spare key and said she could stay at mine while I was at work and I’d pay her for feeding my cat.

Now she’s made things up with her partner. He’s moved back in but she’s still in my face.

She lets herself in and helps herself to anything she can get hold of.

Recently, I came home to find my fridge virtually empty. She’d left an IOU saying she was cooking a special “make-up” meal for her bloke and knew I wouldn’t mind. Well, I do blinking well mind! She’s still not paid me back and I want my key off her. JANE SAYS: Your home has to be your sanctuary.

You were willing to help your neighbour when you thought she was in danger, but everything is different now.

For better or for worse, her fella is back in her house and she’s no longer your problem.

You need your key back and anything else she has of yours.

I think you can forget repayment for the food, but don’t allow her to use or manipulate you again.

She seems to have a complex relationship and you cannot allow yourself to get involved.

Be polite but vow to be stronger. It’s tough confronting anyone, but I fear that unless you speak your mind, then you will end up blowing your top and things will be difficult for all concerned.