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MY new boyfriend has made it clear that he never wants to meet my children.

He doesn’t want to hear about them, look at pictures of them or get involved in any aspects of their lives.

I have my kids (nine and 11) all week and my ex-husband has them at weekends.

Therefore my new guy has decreed that weekends will be our special times when we indulge ourselves.

He’s funny and sexy and makes me feel great, but I’m worried because my son’s birthday is on a Saturday this year.

My ex and I will hold a party for him, and I know that my new guy won’t like me missing a precious Saturday to be with other people. JANE SAYS: Your new man has to hear that you will not be pulled in two different directions or made to feel guilty for wanting to be with the ones you love.

I get it that you like this guy and are slightly dazzled by him, but common sense must prevail.

Engaging with a new partner’s children is often hard, but he has to understand that you come as part of a precious package.

Make it clear that this is something that you’re not prepared to back down over. Is he willing to meet you halfway?

Give this time and see what happens naturally, but if you realise that he has absolutely no interest in even trying to break the ice, is he really the one for you?

Your children are your responsibility and have to be your first priority.