Belittled by guy’s flatmate
Energy
I get it that my girlfriend loves and desires me, but I can’t keep up with her sexual demands.
She’d have sex three times a day if she could. She’s on me morning and night during the week and all over me weekends. I’ve lost loads of weight and my mates say I look exhausted.
When we occasionally go out with friends her PDAs are embarrassing. She’s all over me like a rash and I know that the other girlfriends laugh at her (not always behind her back).
She’s just one of those people with huge reserves of energy. From having no work on arriving here, she’s now helping a woman run a building and interior design business and is earning a fortune.
She can exist on four hours sleep a night before waking up as fresh as a daisy and as rampant as a lion in mating season.
I hate to come across as a wimp but I’m permanently knackered – and I don’t like it.
If I dare to turn her down with an excuse, then she goes into a sulk and accuses me of getting off with other girls – which I absolutely don’t. MY boyfriend’s super-confident flatmate goes out of her way to make me look uptight and dull.
She swans around his flat in pants and a bra making snidey comments that belittle me.
It drives me mad when she joins us at the table for a meal I’ve prepared or bursts into his room and sits on his bed for a chat.
My boyfriend says I imagine things. He says he and his other two housemates think she’s great.
I asked him if he fancies having sex with her and he wouldn’t answer.
JANE SAYS: It’s obvious that your boyfriend is treading a fine line.
He likes his flatmate and needs things to remain civilised because they share a living space. He wants everyone to get on, but he must respect your wishes too.
Coming into his bedroom isn’t appropriate, and nor is interrupting a lovingly made meal.
You’re not a figure of fun and deserve consideration.
Maybe you’re not as worldly as she is, but you are his girlfriend.
Will he talk to her? Where do his loyalties actually lie?