Bloke’s mystery abuse
MY sister is the person in the world.
She’s vindictive and spiteful. I’ve put up with so much from her over the years but I’ve now had enough.
I’ve just discovered that she’s been flirting with my girlfriend – she’s been texting her, turning up at her work and suggesting nights out behind my back.
My sister isn’t even gay or bisexual but she is so furious that I’ve got a serious girlfriend, she has to try and have her too.
My girl complains that my sister keeps sending over “arty” pictures of herself and making outrageous sexual suggestions.
I’m beyond furious. But when I challenge my sister she snorts: “We’re allowed to be friends, aren’t we? You don’t own her, you control freak.”
But this is more than that; this is about my selfish sister having to have a slice of my action.
I’m 24 and have never been lucky in love. As a child I was in and out of hospital and my sister was jealous of all the attention my parents gave me.
At one point they thought I was going to lose the use of my legs so they bought me a wooden farm set, which my sister took great delight in smashing up.
She could hardly contain her glee when our parents died worst within six months of each other and now concentrates her efforts on torturing me.
Our older brother tells me to stand up for myself. He hasn’t spoken to our sister for years after she “accidentally” killed his puppy with a box of chocolates.
I fear that if I approach her, she’ll shout me down and tie me up in knots with her hurtful language and personal attacks.
My girlfriend thinks she’s a bully, but bullies are frightening, powerful people, aren’t they? DURING a row with my boyfriend I bent down to take my phone off the charger.
The next thing I knew I was on the floor and bleeding from my lip.
I’d fallen forward and banged my mouth on the radiator. The thing is, did he push me?
He says it was an accident – that he was trying to help me and sent me off balance by mistake.
Now he’s pleading his innocence while friends and family are begging me to leave him.
He can lose his temper and can be verbally aggressive but he’s never been physically violent before.
What’s going on?
JANE SAYS: Please listen to the people who love you.
Clearly your friends and family can sense you’re in real danger of being badly abused.
You escaped with a cut mouth this time – you may not be so lucky with the next “accident”.
The sad fact is that physical violence has to start somewhere.
He may not have touched you before, but a line has been crossed.
Do you need to think about speaking to the police?