Hubby fallen for fella
Thrill
I seek out edgy partners on specialist websites. I trawl clubs for like-minded lovers and even advertise myself in a local paper that runs a lonely hearts column.
I’m 29 and loads of my mates and colleagues have started getting married and having children and, suddenly, I feel like a dinosaur. Going out on the pull often feels sordid and desperate, but what can I do when I’m addicted to the thrill of casual sex?
The other night I met a load of girls who were on a hen weekend. Two of them ended up coming back with me. We had sex but I got the impression that getting off with me was a joke or bet.
On their way out, they openly relieved me of my watch and wallet, but what could I say or do when I didn’t even know their real names? Mutual friends have told me that my ex-partner wishes she’d never met me.
She’s ashamed that we ever dated and that hurts because I really loved her and enjoyed the five years we shared together.
Recently, I spotted her in the High Street. I shouted out her name and I’m sure she heard me, but she kept on walking.
Later I was buying a coffee when she and her mum marched past and I’m convinced I heard her mother say: “Loser”. How did it come to this when they both used to think that I was great? MY parents divorced in 2005, yet they’re now furious that I’m leaving my husband of three years.
They scream that I haven’t tried hard enough to make my marriage work and they want back the £10,000 they put towards my big day.
My mother maintains that I should have learnt from her mistakes, while my father rants that I’m selfish and have made him feel ashamed within his community.
What they don’t know is that my husband has fallen in love with another man, but I can never tell them the truth because they aren’t modern people and simply wouldn’t understand. How am I supposed to cope?
JANE SAYS: You’re an adult and you cannot allow your parents to pull you apart.
Tell them that you’ll do your best to pay them back over the coming years.
Stand your ground and make it clear that you are devastated and never intended this to happen.
Point out that you would appreciate support at this sad time because you are their daughter; you’re hurting and nothing is clear cut.