Partner loathes our kids
I’M sick of covering for my useless, sleazy boss.
He’s someone who talks a good talk, but does absolutely no work and expects everyone else to run around after him.
He drinks in the office, takes drugs and calls in prostitutes for sex. When he’s not gambling online, then he’s chatting to other women on social media about casual hook-ups.
He expects me to lie for him on a daily basis. I’m tired of telling his girlfriend that he’s in a meeting when he’s actually throwing up or down the pub.
His deputy is a living saint; he carries the can all day long and I’m convinced that he’s on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
Myself and another secretary field calls from our superiors in head office and customers and we’re on our knees too.
Our boss likes to portray himself as a “character” – a David Brent-like-figure. But at least the TV alter ego had some redeeming features; this guy would run over his own granny if he could score a free lunch and some cheap stimulants.
When it’s his birthday he expects a whip round, cards, champagne and a special cake.
He’s like a big kid. I have to organise the collection and other staff members hate me for it; they call me a creep and a suckup but there would be hell to pay if we didn’t pay homage to his massive ego. The bottom line is that I just don’t get paid enough for this rubbish.
My job description doesn’t say minder, yet if I dared to complain then he’d rip my head off.
A while ago he ordered me to put some of his money in my personal bank account.
He wanted to hide a bonus from his girlfriend and I didn’t feel I could say no.
Last week he told me to draw it out – all of it – and do you know what? He didn’t pay me a single penny by way of thanks. I didn’t even earn any interest because it’s not that kind of account.
JANE SAYS: It sounds as if status and power have gone to your idiotic boss’s head.
Just because he has a title and his own office he thinks he can swan about and treat people like rubbish.
Inevitably someone will report him to the powersthat-be and he’ll be found out eventually.
If you don’t feel strong enough to confront this man and finally tell him “no”, then start checking out your options. The fact is that this isn’t the only job in the world and you will find something better if you put your mind to it and seriously look around.
Ask friends and family if they know of any vacant positions you could fill and check out the internet and employment agencies.
Be proactive, set yourself a task and make it happen.
The problem is that if you don’t move on, then this job is going to crush your spirit.
If you have the stomach for a fight, then is there another boss above him that you could report him too? What about your union or ACAS? MY partner openly says he wishes we’d never had children.
Our two are now 15 and 18 and he can’t wait for them to leave home and “set him free”.
He believes they’ve held us back both financially and physically. Without them we could have travelled the world, seen the sights and had more fun.
I just find this attitude so insulting and rude as I love our kids and they’re good people.
My partner lives in a fantasy world, he’s never done anything with his life and that’s his fault – certainly not ours.
I’m sorely tempted to walk out the door with the youngest when the time eventually comes.
JANE SAYS: Your partner should be careful about what he wishes for.
Blaming his children for his situation is beyond pathetic.
It could be that he comes to rely on them in later life, especially if he finds himself impoverished or seriously ill.
Tell them that they are not to take his ramblings seriously.
Then tell him to put a sock in it; otherwise your marriage may not go the distance.