Vicious jibe by ‘friend’
MY girlfriend has slapped me with a sex ban.
I’m not to expect any form of action for at least eight months.
She says I should be grateful to her for sorting out our emergency housing problem, but I don’t think that moving in with her old-fashioned, uptight parents (who hate me) is a great idea.
I think I’d rather sleep in my car than accept a room in their horrible house. But she’s insisting that the eight months we spend with them will enable us to save enough to rent a space of our own in a flat-share.
I’m not convinced. The problem is that the room we will be occupying is right next to her mum and dad’s master suite.
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The walls are like paper. They’re very light sleepers (the mother is actually an insomniac) and my girl is terrified that they’ll hear any little squeak or grunt we might make. She’s promised her mum that she’ll take the single bed while I’ll be on the floor.
I’m even banned from putting my arm around her or kissing her in the front room or kitchen as her parents feel uncomfortable with any show of affection.
When we first started going out, I snogged my girl right in front of them and the mum almost needed smelling salts. I was taken to one side by the father and told, in no uncertain terms, that “smuttiness” would not be tolerated under his roof.
Now my girl says if we can just get through this difficult phase until next spring then we’ll be free to live the life we want.
I’ll be able to make up for lost time and ravish her every second of every day if I want to.
But what am I supposed to do with myself in the meantime?
JANE SAYS: If there’s no such thing as a free lunch, then eight months of board and lodgings will inevitably come at a price. I get the impression your girlfriend is extremely mindful of her parents’ rules and sensitivities.
If they say: “No sex under our roof” then they mean it – and she respects that. Is this your only option?
Are there other friends or relatives who would allow you to sofa surf while you save? Put your heads together and see if you can come up with another plan.
Are your own folks in a position to help out? Personally, I think that if this IS your only option, it’s not a bad one.
At least you’ll be able to sleep in a clean, safe environment while saving cash.
Then next spring you can move on and live whatever kind of life you like. A bit of short-term pain for long-term gain won’t be all that bad.
Surely you can kiss and cuddle when you’re out and about. Only you can decide if this deal is good enough for you as you’ll be the one making up your bed on the floor.
Is your relationship strong enough to deal with a little hardship? But don’t be tempted to break any house rules, because that really wouldn’t be mature or fair. I’M furious with my daughter’s “best friend” for labelling her “fat” on social media.
Now my daughter, who is 18, is in pieces and suffering from anxiety. She hates herself and won’t go out.
She’s demanding extensive plastic surgery (nose job, boobs, bum implant) and I’m furious.
They’ve been friends since the age of eight. My daughter is begging me not to storm round to her house for a face-toface. How dare anyone be so cruel?
JANE SAYS: Your girl has to know she’s not alone. Keep telling her she is beautiful, unique and special and that you’re right by her side all the time.
Beg her to come off social media and go with her to see her GP to try to rebuild that precious confidence with trips out, walks and good works.
Don’t give into the plastic surgery pleas because she’s so young and very vulnerable.
Remind her that this friend is a jealous waste of space.
Check out the Mind website, where you’ll also find help regarding your own well-being.