Wild demon lover hates sharing me
back. The other day he devastated me by asking why he has to keep sharing me with others. He started droning on about wanting to be a normal couple.
Well, I don’t want to be normal. I need to be outrageous.
If he honestly thinks I’m going to settle down with some knitting, then he’s seriously misguided when I feel as if I’m only just getting started. I’m 35.
JANE SAYS: It sounds to me as if your man has run out of enthusiasm.
He was excited at the start of your crazy ride, but now he’s questioning the whole nature of your relationship. He’s splashed around in various hot tubs and attended numerous parties, but now finds himself craving a different future.
He is beginning to reveal his true self. The reality is he doesn’t want to keep up with you. He finds your tastes and sexual demands are just too extreme for him.
In an ideal world, he’d like to settle down into a calmer, monogamous relationship.
You have to accept that you both want very different things. Clear the air with an honest chat. Explain to him that you want more than he can give. Can a compromise be found or are there too many differences?
Sadly, if you and he aren’t destined to go the distance, then vow to part on the best of terms in the hope that you’ll both go on to meet new people who will fulfil both your wishes.
I worry that if you don’t speak up and act now, then there’s a danger that resentment will build. Don’t allow that to happen. Be adult about your differing needs and accept that not all relationships go the distance. I NO longer wish to be with my lesbian lover. I don’t fancy her and no longer enjoy sex.
But I’m too frightened to tell her because she’ll accuse me of being a “time waster”.
I was married to my husband when we first met. I fell headlong in love and persuaded her to leave her long-term (female) lover for me.
For ages she didn’t trust me, she accused me of playing with her.
Now she’s totally committed to us.
But I met someone new through the internet and wish to be with her instead.
How do I handle this?
JANE SAYS: If you’re frightened of getting your head bitten off, then I suggest you brace yourself for the coming storm.
Your lover is going to be furious with you but she has got to hear the truth.
If you no longer love her, then it’s unfair of you to leave her in the dark.
She was unsure of you from the start.
She never thought you were serious and now you’re playing around behind her back.
She doesn’t deserve this.
Apologise, be honest and get out.