He talked to ex as I was giving birth
MY GUY WAS SO SELFISH
MY partner texted his “distressed” ex all throughout the birth of our child.
While I was screaming and pushing, he was comforting her.
At several points during the proceedings she actually phoned him and he dived out into the hospital corridor to take her calls.
Apparently she was hurt and upset. She was jealous that it was me giving birth and not her.
I yelled at him to ignore her and start concentrating on me and he actually told me to stop being a drama queen because his ex-girlfriend had feelings too.
Idiots
I was so embarrassed. I kept apologising to the midwife and health professionals who must have thought us the biggest idiots on the unit.
As it was, he almost missed the birth itself because he was in the pub next door buying her a calming double gin.
I get it that they were together for eight years and that they tried everything to have a baby of their own, but that’s not my fault.
Yes, his affair with me broke up their relationship. But I didn’t plan to get pregnant on our third date. It just happened.
Now we’re back home and our baby is gorgeous.
My mum and sister are a big help and I should be very happy. He insists he no longer has feelings for his ex and that she’s planning to move to Canada very soon.
But I can’t forgive or forget the humiliation I suffered.
Giving birth should have been a precious, joyful experience.
Instead it was like a messy episode of EastEnders.
The latest thing is that he is asking if his ex can come and meet the baby and me so that she can achieve personal closure.
I’ve refused, but he’s calling me small-minded for not granting a final wish to an “unhappy and unlucky woman”. JANE SAYS: Your man is in a new relationship and is the father of a precious child. He needs to finally realise where his loyalties lie.
I’m sure that he does feel guilty and responsible for his ex, but the past needs to be laid to rest.
That performance in the labour ward was farcical and insulting. How dare he humiliate and abandon you when you were at your most vulnerable?
He behaved like a spineless jelly. Tell him you and he will talk about that episode, but only when you’re feeling stronger. In the meantime, his ex will not be visiting you and your child because you don’t know the woman and don’t owe her anything.
Don’t allow your man to take advantage when you’re still recovering. He needs to stop thinking he can be all things to all people when he needs to make a clean and honest break from his ex to commit himself fully to you.
Nothing else is vaguely acceptable. Talk to your family and your GP if you are struggling to cope. Your mental health is of paramount importance right now.