Little girl’s fallen for a total waster
NOW HE LIVES IN MY LOFT
I’M a single dad and my precious daughter’s mum left when she was just two.
It’s been my girl and me together ever since. I always knew she’d fall in love one day, but never imagined she’d find herself attracted to the slug currently occupying our loft room.
I can’t stand him. He’s 20 (she’s 17) and he’s trapped here after a row with his parents.
Horror
I’ve told her they are not allowed to sleep together under my roof, but I’m sure they sneak under the covers once I’m in my office working or go for my walk.
I’ll admit I’m protective but this bloke is a horror. He can hardly string a sentence together, eats like a savage and has no saving graces – well, none that I’ve discovered anyway. All they do is slob around playing Xbox.
But she thinks he’s wonderful and keeps asking me if I like him as much as she does.
I grit my teeth and say: course, love,” but I hate him.
When it’s just him and me in the kitchen I don’t even try to chat. It’s futile and he treats me like I’m some kind of alien.
She jokes that he’s scared of me, which is fine as far as I’m concerned. I’ve spoken on the phone to his mother about
“Of having him back but she says it’s tricky because her elderly mum lives with them.
Also her new husband and the “lad” don’t see eye-to-eye and she thinks it’s better that he stays with us. How did I end up in this position? I’m bringing up and feeding someone else’s oaf when all I crave is peace.
I’ve always had great plans for my girl. I want her to rule the world. But how can she when she’s got the Incredible Hulk hanging around her neck and I’m about to blow my top?
JANE SAYS: It’s your house and you must establish rules that work for all of you. I get it that you adore your daughter but you can’t feel left out under your own roof.
She and her fella need to hear you are running out of energy and patience. Draw up a rota for cooking, cleaning and clearing away. Assign jobs and don’t let them chill out while you do everything.
I’m sure it’s convenient for his mum having him at your place – what a result – but this situation isn’t forever and both she, he and your daughter need to understand that. Once this crisis is over and it’s safe for him to leave, he’ll have to be on his way because you will have done more than your bit.
Stay positive because the last thing you want to do is drive her further into his arms through conflict or a negative atmosphere in your home.
She can’t begin to think it’s her and him against you.
Your daughter is no longer a child and her boyfriend is most certainly a man.
They both need to wise up quickly to the fact that these are difficult times and they’re very lucky to have such a supportive and understanding adult in you.