Playboy wants to bed other women
MY MIND JUST SO MIXED UP
MY boyfriend wants to start seeing other women, but doesn’t wish to lose me from his life.
Can we come to an arrangement? Would I be willing to indulge his need for sexual variety in return for a great lifestyle?
He’s a rich, successful man with money. I’m fully aware that if I walk away from this relationship of a year, then I’ll slot straight back into my old life of grotty flatshares and penny-pinching.
My job’s rewarding but doesn’t pay much and I’ve become used to his fast cars and good wine.
Isolating with him was bearable because I didn’t have to worry about paying bills or buying food. He took care of everything and I feel blessed to know him.
Unreal
My emotions are all over the place. I love him so much and thought we were destined for a dedicated life together.
But a couple of nights ago he confessed that he’s never been a “one woman kind of guy”. Over the years he’s regularly slept with three or four women at a time and has always been honest with each and every one of them.
This has been an unreal time for him because the opportunity to meet new lovers hasn’t been available. But he feels that now things are slowly returning to normal he has to start being true to himself and honest with me.
He says it’s no criticism of me because he loves the vanilla sex we enjoy. But he has certain “special requirements” that he’d never ask me to perform and knows he’ll get satisfaction from other, more worldly, individuals.
Nothing has to change between us. But every so often he’ll go out and do his own thing and he needs to know I’m cool with that. What’s my next move?
JANE SAYS: How will you feel every time this man walks out the door, knowing that he’s going straight into arms of another lover?
Won’t your self-worth sink to the floor?
It’s noble of him to be so honest, but his confession doesn’t leave you in a very good position. I don’t see how all the fast cars and delicious food in the world will make up for the fact that he intends to sleep around.
When he returns from an assignation will you greet him with: “Hello darling! Nice evening at the hotel?”
Or will you feel resentful and deeply hurt? You’re a sensitive human being and I the don’t see how you’re going to be able to turn your emotions on and off at will.
What about your sexual health or the possibility he’ll form an emotional attachment to one of the others?
Plus, if he’s keeping you and paying out for treats, what does that make you?
He’s suggesting a different vibe and dynamic in a very “take it or leave it” manner.
You’re better than this, so carve out your own future. If that means going back to basics then so be it.
At least you’ll be able look yourself in the mirror. to