Scared she won’t show for our day
PERFECT XMAS IS WAITING
THIS was supposed to be our best Christmas ever but now I can’t get hold of my girlfriend.
We haven’t spoken properly in weeks. I don’t even know what’s happening tomorrow.
Any time I manage to track her down she promises to ring me back, but never does. Instead, I get a text saying she’s busy with work or a family emergency.
Is she even serious about being with me full- time?
I left my partner for her last Christmas. I moved out of the family home and into a little flat.
My ex- partner was distraught, but I was convinced I was doing the right thing. The idea was for my girlfriend to follow me the next week, but it didn’t happen.
Sadly, her husband had a complete meltdown and she wasn’t able to get out. I ended up spending the festive season with my brother ( which was grim) while she flew to Barbados for a fortnight in the sun.
She claimed it was hell and she returned promising this year would be ours.
Things were fine until March. She was all set to move in with me again when the virus struck. Now the stark fact is she’s still with him and I’m here alone.
She knows I’m planning to cook a big lunch. I have all of her
presents, including some very naughty items, under the tree.
I’ve sent her pictures of the decorations and her favourite tipples but have no idea if she intends to wake up in my arms on Boxing Day as promised.
The prospect of being with her is the only thing that has kept me going this year, especially as my ex is now planning to remarry her ex- husband and my children hate me.
Have I messed everything wrong? up and got
JANE SAYS: It could be that your girlfriend surprises you with a big kiss and armful of
presents tomorrow morning. But I wouldn’t build your hopes up if I were you.
It sounds as if she has an answer for everything. She promises you the world, but when she needs to take the plunge something crops up.
Twelve months ago, she didn’t manage to leave her husband but did manage to fly to Barbados for two weeks. Funny that…
This year certainly has been horrible, but there have been periods when she could have committed to you. I know of plenty of people who have bought properties, got
married and done all sorts of things – quite legally.
She has to hear that you’re done with her stalling. Is she serious or not because it’s simply not fair of her to keep you dangling on a string?
Prepare yourself for a tough day tomorrow. If she fails to materialise, then enjoy your food and speak to your friends and folks.
In January, reconnect with your kids and make a new plan. This woman may seem wonderful, but I really don’t believe she’s worth it.
Remember The Samaritans are on 116 123.