Silence not so golden

NO TALK FOR 3 YEARS

MY partner and I haven’t uttered a single word to each other in three years.

We communicate either by notes or text messages. We take it in turns to cook and then eat in separate rooms. I clean and he does the washing.

Our kids (16 and 18) despair of us and have now both moved in with my mother, which breaks my heart.

Things weren’t so bad when I was out at work all day, but lockdown means there’s no escaping him.

We fell out with each other over me scraping the car.

It doesn’t help that we’re both very stubborn people.

Now he’s dropped me a note saying he’s going to start having sex with the woman next door. I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this.

JANE SAYS: You have to be the bigger person and break this deadlock in communication.

If your partner is serious about becoming intimate with a different woman, that’s a game changer. For the past three years, you’ve existed in this self-enforced silence. This is no way to live.

You’re despondent, your kids are suffering and your once-happy home is now a place of misery.

Perhaps it’s finally time to admit that you and he would be a lot happier apart? Get talking and start behaving like adults.