Playboy lifestyle’s left me in torment
DIVORCE WAS BIG MISTAKE
I THOUGHT making loads of money, divorcing my wife and sleeping around would make me happy, but I’m as miserable as sin.
I’ve attended orgies, partied with models and got stupid drunk on the best booze, but I’m currently single and feel bitter and washed-up.
My last girlfriend promised me the world, but the sex dried up as soon as I made it clear I wasn’t prepared to pay for her entire family to live with us.
Miffed
The one before her stormed out when I discovered she was using my credit cards to prop up her brother’s failing business.
I’ve fallen out with virtually every mate I’ve ever had. One called me a “tight sod” after I refused to buy him a boat, while another was miffed when I “only” paid off £50,000 of his mortgage instead of the whole £200,000.
The only one still speaking to me is someone I’ve always taken the rise out of for being unambitious and laid-back.
Now he never misses a chance to tell me I’m an idiot. And he’s absolutely right – I am.
Back in 2014 the company I’d built up from nothing was bought out by a multinational. The figure they offered me was
life-changing and I sold up without a second thought.
My wife (now ex) asked me what I planned to do next and I told her: “Divorce you!”
We never even talked about it – I just went. Now I deeply regret losing her because she was honest and true.
I thought that flashing my cash and sleeping around would bring me happiness, but I’ve never felt more hollow or alone.
I look back at the days when I was building my firm, living in our old house and sleeping with my lovely ex-wife and weep.
How have I turned out to be such a knuckle-headed cliché?
JANE SAYS: I have to admire your honesty. At least you admit your mistakes and accept that you’ve been pigheaded, selfish and vain.
Today, on paper at least, you appear to have it all.
You’re rich, single and free to do anything you want. But you’ve burned the candle at both ends so often you hardly know who you are.
You badly need a project and a purpose. Isn’t it time that you started to give something back?
If you’re keen to hang onto your cash, then what about volunteering or setting up a
business that less fortunate?
It sounds to me as if you have too many unproductive hours in the day. You need to stretch yourself.
What you absolutely can’t do is look back and regret.
Presumably your ex-wife has now moved on so mentally let her go as you prepare to make new memories.
You have the knowledge and the energy to be a force for good. Don’t squander your talents because you can be proud of yourself again.
Be mindful of your mistakes and rise again. benefits the