My fella wants me back to my breast
HE SAYS I NEED SURGERY
MY boyfriend wants me to have full plastic surgery and a boob job because I look so old and saggy.
He openly admits that he doesn’t recognise the woman he fell in love with.
The other night he encouraged me to sit with him while he logged on to the website of a top Eastern European clinic.
He literally went through the lists of options like he was picking tins off a supermarket shelf.
From a breast and bum lift to gastric band and eye bag surgery, he tried to convince me that I deserve to feel better about myself and that everything will be worth it in the end. No pain, no gain – and all that eyewash…
Extreme
But I’m fine with how I look. Admittedly I’m not as fit or pert as I was at 25 – but neither is he!
So much has happened in the past year that, if anything, I’m grateful to this old (saggy) body for keeping me healthy and alive.
He knows that I don’t like needles and am frightened of doctors, so why is he suggesting such extreme procedures when he claims to love me?
Then there’s the matter of cost. A quick tot up of the surgeries he’s suggesting quickly got me to £10,000. I strongly suspect the whole package (including flights, hotels etc) would come to much more. I don’t have that to spare and neither does he.
I don’t think his suggestion of, “Ask your Dad, he’s loaded” is viable either. Do you? It really upsets me that the man I live, eat and sleep with now seems to think I’m somehow inadequate.
More than once I’ve asked him that if I don’t do as he suggests, will he then consider trading me in for a younger model.
It worries me that I’ve still not received a resounding “no”.
JANE SAYS: I tell your man
suggest to take
you his grotesque shopping list and shove it. How dare he try to crush your self-worth?
Does he think he’s being funny? Is this all simply one big wind-up? And undertaking extensive plastic surgery is no joke.
If you’re inclined to go under the knife for the sake of your own positive, self-image then that’s very different to what he’s suggesting.
Tell him today that you’re not borrowing money from anyone because you’re happy with the skin you’re in.
If this stunt is his shabby way of him ending your relationship, then he needs to start being honest about his thoughts and motivation.
Undermining your confidence by suggesting you’re unattractive is cruel.
Does he dream of being a single man again?
Is he hoping you’ll snap and dump him out of anger and pure frustration?
Please be careful of anyone who contrives to bring you down when you know your own worth.
You are owed a very big apology. If it’s not forthcoming, then is this the beginning of the end?