Wedding excuses wearing very thin
WORRIED I WILL BE DITCHED
MY girl comes up with excuses not to marry me.
We got engaged in 2016. I got down on one knee and presented her with a beautiful diamond solitaire on holiday in Crete.
It felt like we were in paradise. She said: “Yes, yes, yes” and we rushed to ring our folks.
Now it’s five years on and we’re still no closer to tying the knot. Between 2016 and March 2020 she insisted we save up for the perfect day.
When the pandemic started we had £12,000 in savings.
Date
Obviously, we couldn’t plan anything for 15 months. But now, every time I suggest a date, a hotel and a guest list she wrinkles her nose.
She doesn’t like the hotel I’ve chosen. She doesn’t see why so many of my relatives should be invited etc. I feel as though I’m the only one driving this plan.
The other day I presented her with the perfect solution – I’d got my sister to help me find a beautiful church and venue in the village my fiancée had lived in briefly as a child.
Everything was going well until she realised that my sister had a hand in my plan and threw a wobbly. She raged: “How dare my sister stick her nose in?” Now
she’s saying that my sister (who I’m very close to) can’t come to the wedding at all. This is breaking my heart. All I want to do is marry the woman I love as quickly and stylishly as possible.
Now she’s talking about Las Vegas in 2024 and I’m beginning to lose the will to live.
Is she bored? Is she deliberately moving the goalposts because she wants out, but is too lazy or cowardly to admit that?
JANE SAYS: Your sounds like a brat.
How come she has such a problem with your side of the family? From resenting your
fiancée
sister to demanding you cut your guests, why does she have to be so unpleasant?
If she no longer wishes to marry you and she’s secretly decided she’d rather stay single, then why isn’t she speaking out?
Things have been difficult, but getting a date in the diary isn’t impossible now.
Insist she levels with you. What is she really thinking?
You and she got engaged in 2016. People change their minds, situations change and it could be that she simply no longer regards you as “The One”. But you’re entitled to
hear where you stand. Ultimately you have to be prepared to stick up for your sister and extended family.
If there is a wedding, then it will be your big day too.
You are entitled to invite your crowd and expect them to be treated with dignity and respect. After all, if your fiancée can’t bring herself to be polite and accepting now, then what might the situation be like if or when you have children?
I think you should split your savings and call it a day because she doesn’t sound very mature or kind.