I’m just her bit on side

MY relationship with my married lover isn’t going anywhere.

After two years together we’ve settled into a pattern whereby she sneaks round here for sex once a week.

She tells her husband that she’s going out with mates and dives into my bed instead. I’m expected to provide compliments and fizz.

The sex is still great but I end up feeling hollow and used.

She showers and carefully re-does her make-up before going home again.

Leaving her husband is never mentioned any more.

How do I bring things to a head without sounding too needy or demanding?

JANE SAYS: Your lover is enjoying the best of both worlds, isn’t she?

The reality is that she gives you nothing yet expects sexual satisfaction on tap.

Do yourself a favour by dumping her.

Claim back your dignity and accept that she’s nothing but a user.

She doesn’t deserve your loyalty. Send her back to her husband with the suggestion she sorts herself out. She’s draining your ability to move on and find someone new.