I have had enough of our sex parties
ORGIES TIRING ME OUT
I FEEL like I’m on a runaway train.
My partner and I are drinking too much and sleeping around.
Some mornings I wake up and struggle to recognise the holloweyed mess in the mirror. We need to slow down and change, but that’s easier said than done.
We’re known locally as the “fun couple”. Fellow hedonists like hanging out with us.
From my horny mates and her old college pals to a handful of neighbours, we’ve surrounded by a crazy crowd – and they refuse to let us rest.
Our little semi is party central, and we live in chaos. People drop by all the time. The drink flows, the clothes come off and, before we know it, we’re in the throes of yet another orgy.
I used to be an ordinary bloke. I don’t understand how my life has become a living nightmare.
My partner is definitely more together than I am. She still manages to hold down a challenging full-time job but I’m cracking up.
My boss keeps catching me taking naps and I’m frequently late or ill. Recently, halfway through a staff planning meeting, I experienced a flashback to the night before.
I remembered seeing my partner being pleasured by the bloke next door at an impromptu par
ty. I felt physically sick and had to rush outside for some fresh air.
Later I reminded my girl of it, and she admitted that she doesn’t even fancy our neighbour but felt obliged to get drunk – and naked – with him because “that’s what we always do”.
How did we end up here?
JANE SAYS: You can get off this joy ride any time you like.
Tell your partner that you’re no longer having fun. You and she have lost your way. The excessive drinking, partying and sleeping around are making you ill.
Think of your sexual health
and your mental limits. The fact that you’re struggling to hold it together at work is very worrying indeed. You need your job in order to pay your bills and survive.
You cannot allow other people to run your lives.
I’m sure that plenty of folk enjoy rocking up to your door for an impromptu party, but this level of drinking and sexual energy is unsustainable.
Would it bother you if you never saw any of your sleazy friends or creepy neighbours again?
I get the impression that they are a bunch of freeloaders
and users. No-one can burn the candle at both ends without eventually going into meltdown – and you’re almost there.
Talk to your partner when you’re both sober and tell her that you can’t – and won’t – go on.
Whatever happens, you’ve got to be stronger and vow to be your own person. Do what you know to be right.
Think about a total detox in order to clear your head and reset your relationship.
I suspect your partner – and liver – will thank you for it…