Fun but is she a user?

MY girlfriend swears she likes me, but won’t plan more than a week in advance.

We do get together for sex. She messages me when she’s free and I take her out.

At around 10pm we go back to her place for adult fun. She’s extremely adventurous with kinky tastes, which I’m prepared to indulge to order to keep her happy.

The other night it was all about blindfolds, whipped cream and restraints.

But, if I dare to suggest putting a few dates in the diary or booking a romantic weekend away, she accuses me of being controlling and needy.

I feel like I deserve more commitment and respect, don’t you?

JANE SAYS: I urge you to stop being in awe of this woman.

She’s an ordinary person who needs to start showing you some regard.

If you’re not happy with the way things are, then talk to her. If that frightens her off, then is she right for you?

Having fun is one thing, but if you need more, then you’re entitled to say so.

She comes across as a user who isn’t prepared to commit because she’s keeping her options open – or has her eye out for someone else.