He’s so friendly with ex

MY partner never invites me out with his “old gang”.

He’s going on a Christmas jolly next week, but I’m not included.

However, I’ve been digging around and discovered that his old girlfriend is on the list, even though she went to a different school. He still speaks to her and they meet for drinks after work.

He swears she’s not a threat, but I feel insecure. His argument is that she grew up in the same town and is like a sister.

I feel threatened by this individual. How do I defend myself from being hurt?

JANE SAYS: Plenty of men have female friends and that’s perfectly healthy. But if you genuinely fear his ex-girlfriend is a threat, then you’re entitled to speak out.

Admit that you feel confused and unsettled. Do you have anything to worry about? Are they still intimate?

If he continues to brush you off then maybe you have to accept that he is incapable of giving you what you’re looking for.

Also, is he able to tell you why you are never invited to group nights out with the “old gang”? Will you ever be accepted by them?