I lie and fake it to keep my rich man
SLEEPING WITH HIM IS CHORE
I HAVE no respect for my bloke. I only stick with him because he’s rich.
I loathe myself for being greedy and shallow, but don’t know how I’d cope in the big, wide world without him.
I work but don’t earn enough to rent a place of my own. I’ve grown used to good food and decent clothes and can’t see myself slumming it.
I grew up in semi-poverty in a house with no heating or mod cons and have no desire to go back to those dark, cold days.
My parents were frequently absent and my guy rescued me from a life of penny-pinching.
Selfish
I look at my older sisters and the way they live and could never exist hand-to-mouth like they do. But the price I pay for comfort is a high one.
I have to paint on a smile every day of my life. My guy is generous with his money, but selfish and hopeless in bed.
He cares only about his own orgasms and pleasure. His idea of foreplay consists of showing me a short snap of porn on his phone and expecting me to be instantly turned on. I fake my orgasms and lie.
He has an ego the size of a rocket and constantly wants to hear how sexy and virile he is. He’s not abusive or cruel, but he’s simply not on my wavelength.
Ultimately, he’d like us to get married because he values respectability. How can I wake up with him for the next 50 years when I already hate his guts?
I feel backed into a corner. I’m unhappy. I dream of a gorgeous (rich) guy rescuing me. Is that too much to ask for?
JANE SAYS: I can’t imagine many readers will have a huge amount of sympathy for you.
You’re currently living a comfortable life while others (your own sisters included) struggle to make ends meet.
I understand that you had a cash-strapped upbringing and are desperate not to go back to those dark times, but you need to start taking responsibility for yourself.
You can’t leech off your boyfriend and not expect there to be consequences or a price to pay. Unfortunately, that’s not how life works.
This is your life and you’re only going to get one shot at it. Why saddle yourself with someone you neither love, fancy nor respect? If you marry him, then he is going to expect sex, loyalty, and your company.
You’re not going to get away with spending his cash while doing your own thing. I perfectly understand you feel trapped, because the world outside seems scary and cold, but you need to consider your self-respect, health and happiness.
If this guy can’t make you contented, you’ll be throwing your time away. I urge you to get your house in order. Have you taken the time to tell him how you feel?
You need to start being honest with yourself and him.