I fear she’s back with sugar daddy
OFF FOR SIN CITY HOLIDAY
I’M terrified that my girl has started sleeping with her rich, sugar daddy again.
I can’t compete. When we started dating in 2022, she openly told me all about him; how he’d (financially) supported her through some tricky years after her parents divorced and how she repaid him with sex.
She was very honest about their “relationship” and how she sold herself to get by. I listened with an open mind but made her promise that she’d never contact him again. She agreed.
Last November she was made redundant. She ripped through her payoff in record time spending it on jewellery, holidays, and a new car. She’s still unemployed but, suddenly seems to have a lot of disposable income. How does that work?
All I can think is that she’s back in touch with HIM and that I’m being made a fool of.
She’s just announced that she’s flying off to Las Vegas next month to meet a childhood friend that I’ve never heard off.
She’s already started packing and I notice there are some expensive looking outfits and pairs of shoes in her open suitcase.
She swears she loves me, and our sex life is still red hot, but she’s a feisty character. She doesn’t believe that normal rules
and conventions apply to her. I know I should front her up, but I’m too scared to hear the truth.
I’m all over the place. I think that she and I could be great together if only she’d leave the past behind and allow me to love and guide her.
JANE SAYS: Tell her that you love her but have to know where you stand.
She’s free to jet off wherever she likes but who is funding this upcoming trip to Las Vegas, which is not, let’s face it, a particularly cheap place to fly to or stay in.
If she really is seeing her
sugar daddy again, then she has to come clean about that.
Tell her that you’ve noticed the expensive items in her suitcase.
If she’s not currently working and her redundo money is a distant memory, then where are her funds coming from? Is she using credit cards? Is she getting herself into debt? Is she in trouble and in need of help?
Of course, she may very possibly tell you to get your nose out of her business, but you’re allowed to ask questions.
Trust your instincts. If this relationship doesn’t feel 100 per cent right, then find the strength to step back and contemplate.
Ultimately, only you can decide whether you wish to carry on seeing a woman who lives fast and makes up her own rules as she goes along.
Does she respect you and make you happy? Do you trust her and feel that your partnership is an equal one?
What do reliable friends and the people who have known you for the longest think?