Susie tells us what make her cry and why
On tears and kindnesses
My daughter laughs at me for many reasons, but these are two of the most common: whenever she asks me about anything unusual happening to her body or mind, I always answer “it’s just your hormones!” And the second cause for hilarity (and eye rolling) is that I cry at anything. That, of course, is probably just my hormones.
The other day I drove down our lane and saw that a whole wood was being demolished. The tall, graceful poplar trees, which had struck us as so beautiful when we first came to view our house 17 years ago, were now logs on the ground. I wept. Lola, on the other hand, sent a text to the company doing the work, asking why they were destroying her neighbourhood. I feel we may have an activist in the making.
I always cry watching the Mamma Mia film, but the sequel left me surprisingly unmoved – until the end when the mother, who’s died, appears in a vision to daughter. I literally sobbed and was panicking about how I was going to get out of the cinema with any dignity, given my snotty nose and sodden shirt.
I cry at all the usual things: courage, injustice, the pain and suffering of children/parents, the mistreatment of animals. But what also gets me all lachrymose is kindness. Specifically, the kindness of strangers. Take the newspaper article about a woman who read a poem of hope to someone she heard weeping in the neighbouring lavatory cubicle: definitely something in my eye again…
I have written before about kindness, but I feel it’s important to keep banging the drum for it. We currently live in a world where those who shout the loudest seem to win, where politics is played like a poker game, where truth appears to be malleable and where what you have achieved on paper is valued more than what kind of person you are.
But nothing matters more than what kind of person you are.
It is what I tell my daughter every day. And even if she rolls her eyes at me again, as is her teenage prerogative, this time she doesn’t laugh.
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