Replies to my kids’ lockdown letters brought tears to my eyes
NATASHA KAPLINSKY TALKS TO HANNAH STEPHENSON ABOUT HER HUSBAND’S LONG COVID AND HOW WRITING BROUGHT HER FAMILY HOPE FOR THE FUTURE
WHEN TV presenter Natasha Kaplinsky’s husband Justin Bower developed a temperature at the beginning of the first lockdown, it raised alarm bells for the family.
“It happened the first March [2020] when testing wasn’t really available. He just went downhill really badly, he had a really high fever for 10 days,” the 48-year-old TV presenter recalls, speaking 17 months on.
“I was actually genuinely quite frightened. I was changing his bed sheets every two hours. We knew there was a pandemic and we’d been shut down, but because there was so little testing we couldn’t confirm he had Covid, although he had all the signs.”
“He didn’t have a cough, but later on his body was covered in spots and it was at that point I dialled 999,” she continues. “The paramedics arrived in full PPE. It was a very shocking experience and he took a long time to get better.”
Justin never went to hospital because the NHS was overwhelmed at that point, says Natasha, who won the first series of Strictly Come Dancing in 2004.
“That was my first shock, being in a queue to speak to an ambulance [call handler]. I thought, ‘My gosh, if a child is choking or someone’s having a heart attack, the NHS is literally buckling’. We were painfully aware of the extraordinary lengths the NHS was going through to support people.”
Today, Natasha says her husband still suffers from long Covid, even though he had no pre-existing conditions and is fit and active. “There are times when he literally just goes to bed for a week and feels dreadful.”
However, she adds, “I cannot tell you how much gratitude we have to NHS key workers. They’ve certainly got us through the pandemic.
“We feel so lucky because there are many who haven’t had the happy ending that we have. We are all here together and we are so aware of the sacrifices that have been made through the pandemic and the price people have paid and the hardships that will exist for a very long time post-pandemic.”
It was while in lockdown that Natasha decided to persuade her children, son Arlo and daughter Kika [Angelica], aged 12 and 11 respectively, to write some letters, initially just to reintroduce the process of letter-writing to keep them amused and to reach out to others. “I’ve always been a prolific letter-writer and have always seized any opportunity to write to somebody,” she explains. “I’ve made my children write thank-you letters since they could hold a pen.”
Each letter the children wrote contained the same questions: What have you been doing to keep busy in lockdown, and do you feel positive about the future? At first, they just sent the letters off to family and neighbours, but when the replies started to trickle through, Natasha helped them widen the net
to send letters to famous faces, frontline workers, politicians and stay-at-home heroes.
Not to mention some very high-profile names.
“This was my time to call in my favours,” Natasha reflects. “I was thrilled that Bill
Gates and Melinda
French Gates responded. I’ve interviewed them a number of times, as well as Richard Branson. A lot of them are contacts, having been in the business for many years.”
The collection of letters has now been made into a book, Letters From Lockdown, with all publisher profit going to Barnardo’s, of which Natasha is president.
Some of the answers as to what people were doing dur
ing lockdown are quirky. Bruno Tonioli, a keen gardener, reveals he often had heated conversa
tions with his hibiscus plant; Dame Joan Collins washed her tin foil if dirty and folded it for reuse; Bill Gates played more online bridge. And there’s Dot McCarthy, the goat farmer who set up Goats On Zoom, inviting people to book her goats on people’s video calls.
Natasha’s children were also hugely excited to receive a letter from Ed Sheeran.
“I mean, Ed Sheeran! He wrote such a beautiful letter [about how] he’d contacted the people who made his guitars and set about a DIY project to create a crib for his daughter made from the same cherry wood. How beautiful is that?”
But there are also letters of loss: Sir Richard Branson and Raymond Blanc lost their mothers during lockdown; Benjie and Georgia Ingram-Moore, the grandchildren of Captain Sir Tom Moore, talk about missing him; NHS critical care nurse Dawn Bilbrough writes about her family helping to heal her sadness at the many deaths she witnessed. “A lot of letters brought tears to my eyes,” Natasha admits.
One particularly moving letter comes from frontline doctor Anushua Gupta, who was admitted to hospital with Covid in March 2020 when her daughter was just 18 months old. She was put in a medically induced coma for two months before becoming one of the first Covid patients to be started on ECMO, a machine that does the work of the lungs while they repair themselves. “Her story is absolutely horrendous. It’s people like that whose stories we need to focus on, the true heroes.”
But there is also great hope in the letters, that the world will be a better place and we will emerge remembering what is important and appreciating the little things in life, rebuilding a world more deeply rooted in love and compassion.
“The letters were so full of compassion and kindness, and so inspiring, I just felt we should share that with others,” explains Natasha.
As for her own experience of lockdown, she has had plenty to keep her busy on her farm in the Sussex countryside, including a menagerie of four dogs, two cats, eight alpacas, four sheep and one highland cow – as well as homeschooling her children and growing vegetables.
“I’ve reprioritised. I’ve had to be at home and not take on various lovely opportunities I’ve been offered because I’ve needed to look after our family. I’ve loved being a mum – it’s been very special,” she says. “I genuinely hope that one of the legacies of the pandemic is compassion and kindness.
“There is so much hope and optimism about the future.”
“I can’t wait to give people a hug and not worry about it, to shake hands and not feel like there’s something wrong about it. As a mother I feel sad that I’m keeping my children back from sharing emotion.
“It’s so unnatural to keep people away from each other,” she continues. I know that when it does come, it’s going to mean so much more because we’ve missed it so badly.”
I genuinely hope that one of the legacies of the pandemic is compassion and kindness. Natasha Kaplinsky