Is it too late to rekindle romance with estranged husband?

IT is now three years since my husband left me for another woman. Soon afterwards he told everyone that he’d made a mistake but I was so angry that I refused to see him.

Our divorce is about to come through, but I can’t shake the feeling that perhaps I made a mistake.

I know the guy who I’m now with is nothing serious, but I don’t know about my husband’s new relationship.

Would it be a stupid thing to contact him and tell him how I feel? – Z.W. IF you’ve refused to have anything to do with your husband for three years, then I don’t think you can expect too much from him now.

However, at present, you are still married and so contacting him – if only to clear the air and make a fresh start – would not be a bad thing to do.

You clearly loved him once and he loved you as well, so putting the animosity to rest before you both get on with your lives can only be a positive move.

If he is happy in his current relationship, then stirring up old feelings in him would not be fair.

Just contact him and say you’d like to put things straight between the two of you and see how it goes.

You are bound to feel sad as the end of your marriage approaches, but I think, deep down, you realise it may be too late to start the marriage again.

Please be prepared to let go of the past and, if your present relationship isn’t working, end it so you can look to a new future. I AM at college with a guy who, when we first met, asked me out.

As I was engaged at the time, I refused, but since then I’ve called off my engagement.

I’ve realised I really like the guy who asked me out, but now he seems to just see me as a friend. We meet socially a lot and find it easy to talk to one another, but it never goes any further.

I would love to be able to tell him how I feel, but I’m worried it will scare him off. – P.V. I ASSUME this young man knows you’ve called off your engagement? But you rejected him once, so he is naturally going to be cautious about risking another rejection.

He may well be feeling the same way you do, but he’s probably confused about how you see him now.

It’s time to stop all this dancing around each other and make your feelings clear.

Just remind him that he asked you out when you first met and ask him if he’d still like to go on a date now you’re single again.