Ask Janice ... IS IT OKAY TO DATE MORE THAN ONE PERSON AT A TIME?

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DEAR Janice,

I hope you can settle an argument. Is it okay to date more than one person at the same time?

I am seeing three guys at the moment and my friends are divided in their opinion.

I am in my forties, enjoying myself, the guys seem to be too, so what’s the problem?

I suggested there might be a touch of jealousy to one of my friends who disapproves, and she was less than pleased.

Angela.

DEAR Angela,

I would say that dating multiple partners until you find one you want a monogamous relationship with is fine, so long as you are upfront with your dates. But there could be a few issues.

Multiple sexual partners can lead to a greater risk of developing cervical and/ or oral cancer, as well as STDs.

Sexual health issues aside, continually shifting from partner to partner could have a negative impact on your wellbeing, as it could turn out to be exhausting and disappointing, to the point of feeling unworthy if no- one ever meets your expectations, or vice- versa.

I must admit, I find it strange that a guy with credibility would want to date a girl who is dating others at the same time, and I would question his motives. If he just wants casual sex, is this really the type of partner you wish to attract?

If you’re not bed- hopping and simply getting together to find a spark with someone, then I see no harm in doing what you’re doing.

I hope it works out for you.

DEAR Janice,

I was delighted when my boss agreed to me working from home permanently, as I hated the commute, especially in the winter, but now I am feeling rather isolated.

I don’t get invited to any work nights out anymore either, so one day just seems to roll into the next.

I’m starting to regret my decision, but think my boss will be less than pleased if I backtrack, so what do I do?

Jackie.

DEAR Jackie,

I believe we are social beings. Therefore, long periods of solitude can have a detrimental impact on our wellbeing.

Explain how you feel, and I have no doubt your boss will happily welcome you back into the office whenever suits.

I doubt if anyone deliberately decided you weren’t welcome at

These are the personal views of our Agony Aunt and should not be relied on as a substitute for medical or other professional advice. work events, it’s simply a case of out of sight, out of mind.

So, get yourself back in there, take in some biscuits and cakes, and rebuild your friendships with your colleagues, whom I have no doubt will have missed you.

There may be others in your situation, so why don’t you start a weekly get- together with people in the office and invite those working from home to join you online?

Suggest a monthly quiz, and perhaps your boss might even put up a prize.

Whatever you do, I’m sure it will be a step in the right direction. Good luck.