Learn to love your emotions and what they can do for you
order to thrive. Envy can spur us on to better ourselves, guilt to repair our relationships and anger to fight injustice.
A first step to loving your emotions is to be curious about them.
See if you can take a step back and observe your emotion as it ebbs and flows.
What is the emotion telling you? What messages is it communicating to other people (through your body language, for example)?
What urges are you experiencing with this emotion?
It can be helpful to notice the physical sensations that come with your emotions.
Where can you feel the emotion in your body? How intense are the sensations? Are they changing? If so, how?
See if you can be genuinely curious about your emotion without trying to change it in any way.
Learning to love our emotions isn’t easy and often takes time and practice, especially if you’re someone who has learnt not to trust your emotions or if your emotions get you into difficulty with unhelpful or destructive behaviours.
If this is the case, it’s worth finding out whether a talking therapy can help you learn to manage your emotions more effectively.
In any case, our emotions are here to stay. We may as well drop the struggle and learn to love them.
Therapy can help if you struggle with your emotions