Learn to love your emo­tions and what they can do for you

Gloucestershire Echo - - HEALTH & LIFESTYLE - WITH DR EL­LIE MILBY Dr El­lie Milby is a coun­selling psy­chol­o­gist

or­der to thrive. Envy can spur us on to bet­ter our­selves, guilt to repair our re­la­tion­ships and anger to fight in­jus­tice.

A first step to lov­ing your emo­tions is to be cu­ri­ous about them.

See if you can take a step back and ob­serve your emo­tion as it ebbs and flows.

What is the emo­tion telling you? What mes­sages is it com­mu­ni­cat­ing to other peo­ple (through your body lan­guage, for ex­am­ple)?

What urges are you ex­pe­ri­enc­ing with this emo­tion?

It can be help­ful to no­tice the phys­i­cal sen­sa­tions that come with your emo­tions.

Where can you feel the emo­tion in your body? How in­tense are the sen­sa­tions? Are they chang­ing? If so, how?

See if you can be gen­uinely cu­ri­ous about your emo­tion with­out try­ing to change it in any way.

Learn­ing to love our emo­tions isn’t easy and of­ten takes time and prac­tice, es­pe­cially if you’re some­one who has learnt not to trust your emo­tions or if your emo­tions get you into dif­fi­culty with un­help­ful or de­struc­tive be­hav­iours.

If this is the case, it’s worth find­ing out whether a talk­ing ther­apy can help you learn to man­age your emo­tions more ef­fec­tively.

In any case, our emo­tions are here to stay. We may as well drop the strug­gle and learn to love them.

Ther­apy can help if you strug­gle with your emo­tions

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